Parents often Hide lack of money. They don’t recognize why they can’t buy
something to their kids. The worst thing is to buy kid whatever he want, no
matter how U can handle that, because „kid deserve that“. We often say „kid is
good in school“. Great, you find the stimulation, and means for
manipulation...manipulation with you. One my friend used to say „If you were my
parents kid, they would go bankrupt!“(I was good student). He perfectly
manipulated with his parents, but I don’t belive that they were satisfied.
I don’t practice that. For me, it’s OK that kids also know why something we
can’t buy. Not because „no reason“, it’s because we have strong reason. We earn
money. Money is limited category (for the most of us) and should be spent
wisely. So, be free to tell your kids „I don’t have money for that“ or „I don’t
have money now“. It will be unpleasantly for the first time, but that’s
reality, and kids will realise that better than you expect.
If you say “I said no,
and it’s the end!”, you left kid confused. They don’t know what is the reason,
or are they make mistake, or you just express your power over them. The thirt is the worst!
Yes, it’s tough, but
time and training (for them and you) will help. Maybe, even you fix your bad
habits, especially if you prefer compulsive buying.
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